If you are not willing to track down the problem at the command line in your logs via journalctl and to investigate what is running well and what is not via systemctl; yes, you should move on to something else.
DigitalOcean has some excellent tutorials about systemd.
Lurking at freenode #xfce would have been good also. The thing about freenode and xfce is that you would not have been shot down because you had a "Debian -variant" but possibly, even probably assisted. Note, you would need to know how to pastebin as it is irc. They would have asked you for command line output which you could have provided via Ctl-Shift-C to cut text out of the terminal. You would also need gpm installed. to cut. If you wish to stick and learn . . .